As the bride’s mother, you probably are looking forward to helping your daughter plan her wedding – after all, this is one of the biggest events of her life! It is also a delicate situation, as your daughter likely wants your support and assistance, but has her idea of your level of involvement. There are some traditional roles, which we will outline here – but always speak with your daughter to ascertain her expectations, so as to keep this part of the journey as stress-free and happy as possible!
Some general guidelines include making yourself available and letting her know when you can help; and then stepping back to allow her to ask for specific help. As much as you may wish to help sample cakes, or pick out the groom’s tux, the couple may have other ideas about how to distribute things (remember, they have the groom’s family and their friends who all want to be involved somehow!). If you have agreed to pay for the wedding – in whole or in part – you may have input as to how the money is spent, but resist the urge to think that gives you the right to make decisions that rightfully belong to her.
Advice about Advice: Whether paying or not, only provide input that is requested, or is something constructive. (For instance, reminding her that accommodations may need to be made for older guests who may have trouble with steps or long walks).
Other Mother of the Bride Duties:
Shopping for the gown with her daughter
Coordinating with the bride and the groom’s mother regarding their dresses
Helping to compile the guest list
Handling correspondence with selected vendors – caterers, entertainers, florists.
Collecting RSVP’s and tracking responses
Attend bridal showers (usually the bridal party will throw the shower)
Greeting guests at the reception, as well as being ready for the traditional dance!
One of the most important mother of the bride duties occurs at the ceremony. The wedding is not considered officially ready to begin until the mother of the bride has been seated – she is the last person to be escorted to her seat, and that signals that the ceremony can begin! You’ve been there from the beginning, and this day is no different. No one knows your relationship better than you do, so talk with your daughter to establish expectations, then relax and enjoy!
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